Hello World! Todays class was really good! Our instructor did a fantastic job of discussing the topic of self concepts. I felt so bad during the first hour and half though, I didn’t have that great of a sleep last night and I was sitting there listening to her and my eyes were fluttering up and down because I was trying to keep them open. Thankfully!! Break time I was able to run to McD’s for a coffee, and I got paid to do so because some of my fellow students were also in desperate need of caffeine. There was a Bon Jovi concert this weekend … need I say more? So they all gave me the money and I got to keep the change…THANK YOU FOR TOMORROWS COFFEE! I will definitely need it.
So on to today’s topic… Self-concepts are the individuals evaluations of himself or herself, a person’s self-appraisal, how well you know your self.
There are four ways of how ‘self’ develops. a) appraisals made by significant others about the self. This is when someone would for instance tell you that you are a thoughtful person. It is when someone states something about your personality whether good or bad. b) appraisals that are repeated, become a pattern and become incorporated into self. Like the first appraisal this would be when there are more than one comments of others stating that you are a thoughtful person. c) Behavior emerges to match the appraisals. This would be when you notice yourself being thoughtful toward others. Noticing that the comments that others have mad are true about you. d) With each new era of development , the self it open for reappraisal. This meaning that with new situations, you are ready to hear constructive criticism.
The functions of self-concepts are: a) helping explaining behavior, b) providing a conceptual frame-work for decision-making, c) shaping expectations for the future, (making goals that you are able to meet), and d) provides bridges for meaning (knowing the reasons for why something happened).
Components of Self-Concepts are our body image, how we view ourselves. Our self-awareness, all of our psychological beliefs and attitudes. Our personal self-esteem, whether we see the value and significance of ourself or not. And our role performance, the roles that we play in teams, in your family, and how we function with expected behavior.
Aspects that can make it hard for us to improve our self-concepts, essentially the barriers, are:
- To be perfect – trying to perform at unrealistically high levels at work, school, and home; thinking that anything short of perfection is unacceptable.
- Being Strong – weakness and any of the more vulnerable emotions like sadness, compassion, or loneliness are wrong.
- Pleasing Others – seeking approval from others; assuming that if you gain the approval of others, then you are worthy and deserving person, but if others disapprove of you then you are worthless and undeserving.
- Hurrying Up – doing thing quickly, doing more than should be reasonably expected in any given amount of time.
- Trying to Hard – taking on more responsibilities than any person should be expected to handle. Trying to more than is what expected in your scope of practice.
One section I really like about today’s class is ways to improve our self-esteem and that of our patients. I am sure that all of us have one thing in our lives that make us feel insecure, maybe we don’t like the way we get all flustered when talking in front on an audience, or we feel we aren’t qualified for certain responsibilities. These strategies could definitely be helpful for ourselves, and with others around us:
- make and define clear and realistic goals
- make your self think clearly, or your patient
- give positive feedback, give yourself a pat on the back, or indulge yourself in treat because you know you did well
- encourage positive self-affirmations
- stop negative thinking, not negative put downs when performing a task
- visualization exercises, showing how wonderful a place is, or bringing to mind the wonderful benefits for after the fact
In summary, we defined what self-concepts are, and the four steps to how one develops. The various components of self-concepts and the aspects that make it hard on our selves to improve. Lastly, I shared some strategies on how we can build up our self-esteem, or that of others, in my case it will be building up the patients self-esteem.
And that was today’s Communication Class!! It flew by, thanks to a great teacher!!


